How many friends do we really need? Jesus had 12 disciples and even within that group of 12 Jesus had three who He was especially close to; Peter, James, and John.
“After six days Jesus took Peter, James, and John with him and led them up to a high mountain, where they were alone. There he was transfigured before them. His clothes became a dazzling white, whiter than anyone in the world could bleach them. And there appeared before them Elijah and Moses, who were talking with Jesus…As they were coming down the mountain, Jesus gave them orders not to tell anyone what they had seen until the Son of Man had risen from the dead. They kept the matter to themselves, discussing what ‘rising from the dead’ meant.” Mark 9:2-4, 9-10
I’m not saying cut your friend circle down to three but I think from Jesus’ example we can see not all of our friends need to be BFF’s. I’m learning as I get older that not every person I call a friend needs to know the intimate details of my life. I’m sure we’ve all learned from experience that not everyone we trust with secrets will keep “matters to themselves.” And so my circle is really tight these days. Outside of God and family, I only have 2 or 3 friends I tell my dreams and ambitions to. I think this small circle helps protect us.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” Proverbs 4:23
“A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” Proverbs 18: 24
The commentary with this verse is so great it reads “We all need friends who will stick close, listen, care, and offer help when it is needed—in good times and bad. It is better to have one such friend than dozens of superficial acquaintances. Instead of wishing you could find a true friend, seek to become one. There are people who need your friendship. Ask God to reveal them to you, and then take on the challenge of being a true friend.” Life Application Study Bible, NIV.